Transactional nature is brought into the home Relationships with your partner cannot be transactional in nature. They should be based on mutual understanding and connection. What is transactional nature? “I have done this and that for you. What did you do?” “I bring this and that to the table. What do you bring?” See the insanity of this concept. You can’t even control the situations in your own life, yet you want to have a sense of proportional control over an equation in which there is another person involved. Lack of clarity about life situations Alright, see it this way. If someone says, “I want a person who earns this much because that is compatible with me, as I earn around the same amount,” it sounds fair. But you don’t know what life is going to bring you. What if you get laid off and don’t get a job right away? What if you develop an illness (I’m not wishing that upon you; it’s just a possible what-if) and are confined to bed rest for a long time? And now you are asked, “What ...
There are two ways to experience power in the world. The first comes from an external source and is unstable. The second comes from within and is stable. When your source of power is external, you derive your sense of superiority from the people around you. You gain a sense of value by bringing others down, an urge to dominate. Then there is another kind of power, one that comes from within. If you pay attention, you may notice that when you are in the presence of certain people, you feel more powerful yourself. Their presence doesn't make you feel smaller or less valuable. Instead, you feel more connected to your own power. The difference lies in the source. In the first case, your sense of power depends on how you stand in relation to others. In the second, it comes from within you. Consider a hostage-taker. They exercise power by taking control of their surroundings, creating a situation in which people have to listen to their demands. Their control is real, but the sense of sup...